Last night my cousin -A mother of 4- called me from Chicago, we were talking about how frustrating it is when you have a crying baby, and she was recommending some solutions... Then she told me that last year, she took one of her kids to buy him a pair of shoes, when her one year old baby suddenly started crying as if there is no one around listening! My cousin said that at that moment she wished Earth would swallow her! But she just had to get her son the shoes...
One lady there, went to her inside the store, and said loudly: Take your kids and GO HOME!!
My cousin was shocked and nervous at the same time...so she asked: excuse me?! The lady repeated: GO HOME!
My cousin got soooo mad and said: You B****!!! If you have no kids...then too bad! Why don't YOU go home?!
To be honest, if my cousin told me this a year ago, I would have thought: Yea! Why does she take her kids out if she knows they don't behave?!
But yesterday when she told me the story, I got soooo mad at that lady!! I know how hard it is to make a baby calm down...
I went to meet my friend few days ago at the mall, Mariyah was full, clean and quiet...I had few minutes for myself before she started crying so loud! I got so confused! I kept walking her and then lifted her up...held her close to me, and still she was crying... People were staring at me as if I have committed a crime or something :s Some were too nice giving me smiles and coming close by to have a look at her...but most of the people there killed me with their looks I decided to go to one of the fitting rooms to feed her...again she was not hungry! So I simply decided to go back home...and have her cry away from IGNORANT people!
Next time...if she cries..I WON'T leave! I will stay because it is my right to go out and see people..and not to isolate myself from the whole world! Even if I got the worst looks ever!!
I just CAN NOT wait for the book to arrive! "Happiest baby on the block" recommended by 7aki fadi, I read a lot about it already and seems that it's going to be a good help for me to learn how to calm my baby down :)
8 thoughts from family & friends:
gosh how rude..i would have kicked that "lady's" a$$...the mall is for everyone..and a 1yr old crying is not a misbehaving child.. u can not control babies...they get gases they get stuff...babies cry..moms do not have to sit at home so some people wont be bothered....and even when my toddler misbehaves and cries because i wont buy him something i wont buy it just to make my baby stop crying to please others...what kind of a message is it sending my kids..u cry in public and i will give you whatever you want..
that is strange, ppl in ca r much nicer and more friendly than other places around here....why worry about what ppl think...just stay and let them cry...i have seen kids in atlanta being beaten up by their parents and NOONE bothered to interven!!!
my kid used to cry his lungs out, and i never left a place to please anyone!!!
hang in there, soon things will get better, inshalla!!!
This is not the post an expecting mother should read in the morning : (
Just kidding, hang in there and don't miss in on life just because of some insensitive people.
what a bitch 3anjad!!! The nerve on her. If it was me I would eat her ALIVE if she dares tell me anything.
Don't you have family rooms or nursing rooms at the mall? Here in Canada they started having them in most malls. Usually in the family bathrooms. If you know which ones in your area have them go there when you need to go out. Those rooms give you privacy. Look into it.
I really hope this book works for you :) .
Next time your beautiful bannout cries at the mall or anywhere public, don't look at anybody and ignore all as if you are alone..You don't need the pressure of them looking at you while your child is crying..and some people can be really rude..
Personally I prefer to listen to a crying baby rather than seeing those ill behaved kids running around pushing and screaming..those parents need to leave first..
ba3dein Mariyah 7elweh w mahdoumeh feeha ta3mel shou ma badha..we don't care..kiss her on her little toes for me :D
Thanks a lot, all of you! YOU ROCK! hehe
Sam: Exactly! You would end up buying the toys store itself :p
Afaf: To be honest, I didn't want to sound racist, but only minorities are the friendly ones here, like Mexicans and Asians! I'm not leaving anymore! Allah yisma3 minnik thanks a lot :)
Tamara: lol, I recommended Diana to stop reading my posts earlier :p hehe...but itwakkali 3ala Allah, each baby is different and inshallah my baby will be calmer soon, and yr baby will be the most peaceful one ever ;)
Dandoun: We have nursing rooms, I was a lil bit far away from them, so I jumped into old navy's fitting rooms! It was the closest by! I tell you, I was soooo confused :s
Noura: They added a lot of pressure on me wallah! But no more inshallah :)
her little toes are long ones mashallah, it'll take me time to kiss them all but min 3yooni :D
have you tried a sling carrier or a Pouch?
Some babies cry because it's so diefferent for them outside from inside the womb, hence came the idea of the sling, or wearing your baby like Kangaro moms. This way the baby feels somewhat like home, she's warm, your hands are free and if she's facing inwards you can nurse her. I carried my son in a sling wheneverI wanted to go to the mall and he never cried, people would say "OMG how quite!! I would've never guessed there's a baby inside". My friend uses a Mobi Wrap with her son and it's good and nice looking.
give it a try.
Anon: Thanks for coming by! and for the advice! I just got a sleepywrap for her! I have been waiting for it! I tried it the day b4 yesterday and she loved it:) I will post pix soon ;)
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