Before she was born, I thought my heart is big enough...full of love to those beautiful people in my life!
But now, I can feel my heart stretching one day after another...becoming bigger and bigger to make her love fit in!
My love for her is growing, With time :)
I am a more understanding mother these days...Now I know what she needs and I hurry to provide her with love and care.
Reading "The Happiest baby on the block" is making me more relaxed and is keeping me away from anxiety! I trust my instinct more and my patience is at it's peak!
As for my previous experience with babies, It never existed! The last time I held a newborn, I was 14 years old! That was 12 years ago, when my brother was born! I remember helping my mom holding him and calming him down...but he was not a sensitive baby like our Little Mariyah...
Mariyah is a very alert baby...she is so sensitive to noises, to lights, to smells and movements...She finds it so hard to calm herself down by herself...
If she is not home she stays awake no matter how sleepy and tired she is! Her eyes stay open and her hands keep moving! She needs attention all the time...I have to keep her close, either by feeding her or holding her...
While at home...it's totally different...It's so quite, and she enjoys her swing, her bouncer and her baby gym! They can keep her awake and calm for a whole hour...but when it's time to sleep, SHE HAS TO BE WRAPPED, and she sleeps only while I'm feeding her or with Jeeej on the rocking chair!
The book made me understand that Mariyah is living the missing 4th trimester...which means that we should provide an atmosphere similar to the womb she stayed in for the 1st 3 trimesters!
The babies world keeps impressing me...at the beginning I felt so bad for not being experienced with babies like many other girls, but now I only feel blessed being able to understand this world with my own baby...She is teaching me so many things and I just keep enjoying her while she is awake...
We are going out daily these days! Gatherings and picnics...walking in the park or visiting Jeeej at work!
I try to get her tired during the day before she gets me tired at night! Sleeping for 6 and 7 hours at night is helping me a lot during the day...to love her and enjoy her as much as I want :D
7akifadi, Thanks a lot for suggesting this book! il hamdolillah, It's changing my life into a better one, AMAZINGLY!
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I am soooooo happy to hear that the book is helping you Nido. Inshallah you will get relaxed more and more since that also helps relax the baby :).
I used to use the baby sling ( not the sling but the other one you carry the baby in front of you) during the day while doing the house chores or going for a walk.
Kept my little angel close to me while freeing my hands. And it keeps rocking her all day. her favorite activity? Her being in the sling while i vacuumed :) . Or if I am feeling a bit blue I would put some music on and bounce with her in the sling. hehehe that helped me and the baby.
I am happy to see you adjusting day by day.
Quite frankly, as a proud parent myself, books will make you feel better because suddenly you have an "Owner's manual" to help you with the babies. But to be completely honest, every single book is different (I read 5) and came to the conclusion that whatever works for you doesn't necessarily work for others, and the opposite is also true.
Your own experience is your own experience. Don't rely on the books to enjoy it. Although, books will help. But they don't have much more than what you know by instinct.
Enjoy your wonderful baby, soon she'll be growing too fast. Just enjoy every stage as much as you can
Dandoun: I can't wait to reach the chapter abt postpartum depression, I wanna understand what I was going through :p
I got a sling, it's actually a wrap, and I am going to start using it outdoors soon...I just want to get used to it first...
Thank u so much 7aki!!
UmAmin: Thank you for dropping by and for the comment :)
As fo this book I'm reading, I felt -somehow- that the author is talking to ME! It's answering so many questions I have in mind! It's amazing how every now and again while reading I would say "this is what I want to hear"! As if I was reading what my instinct is telling me...It's confirming what my heart tells me to do...
I got really confused with so many ladies around me suggesting this and that! I thought I should listen since they are the ones with the experience! But now...No more! Each baby is different as you said, and I will do it my way :)
Nido
As I read your posts I think, hmm so this is what I'm going to go through soon. I would assume I would not listen to all the advices I hear from people unless they really make sense to me.
keep the posts coming : )
Tamara: each one lives a different experience, that's why it's hard to apply one rule on all babies!
Inshallah you will have your mom close by to help you with the baby and answer all yr questions!
I wish I had mine with me, and time difference made it hard to talk to her whenever I needed her...
Bas even though, I recommend you get the book! It has a lot of advices that really work!
I wish I had it before I gave birth, my life would have been much easier the 1st two of months with her :)
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